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Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Things Grandparents Forget About Having Small Children

After having spent several LONG days cooped up in the house with my family due to Indiana becoming Antarctica last week, I got to thinking about several things I wish grandparents would understand/remember about young children. 

1. Being loud when you're trying to get your children to sleep.
Having the tv up super loud when you're trying to get the kids to sleep, talking loudly or just being loud in general. My favorite is when you've asked them to please be quiet and they keep talking loudly. I don't know about you, but my kids won't go to sleep if they hear my voice, which makes it incredibly difficult when you're being bombarded with questions.

2. Letting the grandkids do something after their parents have said no in the presence of the parents.
I think it's disrespectful to directly and deliberately go against the wishes of the parents.  It also sends the message to the kids that it's ok to ignore what they say. Not cool grandma!

3. Ultimately it's the parents that have to deal with the consequences of your actions.
Believe me, I get it. You want to spoil your grandchildren. And yes, you've earned that right. Within reason. However, the parents are the ones that have to ultimately deal with the consequences of those actions, whether it's getting the kids completely riled up before nap/bedtime and then leave, giving them all kinds of sweets or rearranging the house after you have specifically said not to or any sort of combination of the above. 

Now, don't get me wrong, our families are VERY good to us and our kids. And, we're very appreciative of everything they have done for us. I'm not saying that grandparents shouldn't spend time with their grandchildren and that they should treat them every now and then. It's just when it's excessive then it becomes a problem!


  1. I feel the same way on so many of these. I just recently visited my parents and they did all the above. During nap time and bed time they would blast the tv so loud or even walking into the room while the kids were sleeping. My crazy folks!! But it was still a nice trip even though no one slept properly.

  2. I really do appreciate everything our families have done for us, but it's so incredibly frustrating at times.

  3. Completely understand - My mom used to send Jay home on a sugar high and literally with BAGS of Candy, after throwing away numerous bags of death I finally had a chat with her. It still happens, not a whole lot I can control when I am not there though. I agree, I feel like they just "forget" sometimes because they haven't had littles in their home for so long. Silly grandparents :)

  4. Oh boy do I know how you feel!!!! We live with my dad and step mom so I fight this stuff on a DAILY basis. I must add one. "Kids, especially babies and toddlers, are not quiet. They whine, they cry, get use to it, especially when the things you are "teaching" them by going against what I say is one thing making the whining worse and more frequent."

  5. Oh, I would go insane if I lived with family! I like my space and things a certain way and it drives me nuts when that is interrupted. And you are absolutely right. Kids are loud. Our families are pretty good about that one, it's my husband who freaks out when we're in public and they're just being kids. Remind me to tell you about the Macaroni Grill incident sometime :-)

  6. Luckily no one has done that :-) I can't control what happens when I'm not there, but my control freak nature still gets upset about it though.

  7. Ha! This IS uncensored for you. But so true. Especially #2. I don't have kids but understand the whole "united front" principle. Grandma's house? Sure Grandma's rules...but not like what you said.

  8. Just you wait as to what is to come... :-) In all seriousness, I don't mind little things for the most part. It's just when it's over the top that I get upset about.


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