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Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Would You Be Offended?

So I just happened to see on a friend's calendar that they were apparently invited to a wedding of a mutual friend and we were not. We both went to school with this mutual friend and neither of us were that close to this person. To my knowledge neither of us really talk to the person in question all that much either. 

So, why am I feeling really slighted and hurt right now? 

Maybe it's something as simple as they no longer have our address or maybe they don't want kids there, but it's still hurtful regardless. Especially because it's 45 minutes from our house, which means that it's not an overnight for us so we could easily find a sitter. And we're Facebook friends so it's not like they can't easily ask for our address. 

Scratch that. I'm actually pretty pissed about it. We invited this person to our wedding and I get it that weddings are serious business and you have to cut people, but you would think that if they decided to invite the person that isn't that close to them and lives a plane ride away, then they would invite us. I would be shocked if the rest of our little group wasn't invited. And how awkward would that be if they come and we get together with them and we're not invited. Or even better, they come and don't bother to tell us. I'm just so pissed because I invited the girl I couldn't stand (which isn't the person in question) in our little group to our wedding because it was the right thing to do not to leave only her out.

I guess I must be a better person. 

People suck. 

15 comments:

  1. Ahhh, nothing creates drama like weddings. Neither of us know the real reason but I know it sucks and I'm sorry :(

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  2. It's definitely tough making wedding cuts but I understand your hurt. Although sometimes I am glad now when I'm not invited to a wedding- saves some money!

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  3. LOL this is true...and I have definitely not attended weddings before because I couldn't afford to make the trip. It's just irritating because why cut us if they don't talk to the rest of the people in our group anymore either? Who knows what their reasoning is, but it still hurtful.

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  4. I am so sorry for your frustration. Maybe she just overlooked you or something. Like Kate said, you are saving money by not attending her wedding. ;)

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  5. I would just straight up ask. I would want to be asked if I were her and I would want to know if I were you.

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  6. The problem is how to go about it...I don't want to flat out be like "Why didn't you invite us to your wedding?!" but at the same time I want to know!

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  7. We have a nice playset for the kids...and -I try to make everything in our backyard have a purpose: be edible, or look pretty. So.... we have a lot of things growing back there! A raised bed -way too many bunnies to each anything I try to grow, strawberries, blackberries, rhubarb, asparagus, and...anything else I plant in my garden. Can't wait to get everything in the garden! This winter was so cold, I am waitig a bit more -I am in the north, and -it likely may frost one more time. BOOOOO.

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  8. I have just planted flowers out front and tomatoes (12 plants) and 6 plants of butternut squash. I usually do seeds of squash, but they've done so terrible the last year or so, I thought I would try one more time with plants. I still have to plant one package of beans, sugar snap peas, zucchini and spinach but am not motivated as it is so cold and wet this week. I usually like them in the ground by May 15.

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  9. That's one thing that I'm glad about living in Southern Indiana...we can start planting in mid April! There's no way that would've happened in Ft. Wayne :-)

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  10. I have two large planters full of flowers on the front porch that the squirrels keep digging up so I'm thinking about just putting my tomato and pepper plants in them since I don't have my raised bed yet. I've got a ton of herbs in the herb garden, plus I planted mesclun mix, leaf lettuce, arugula and spinach in there as well. I also planted green, yellow and purple beans in a container that have started to come up. We've been eating greens from the garden for weeks - it's awesome!

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  11. You can say that you saw her post about her wedding and tell her congratulations. That will open the door to start a conversation. You can say that you were disappointed and was hoping to share her fabulous day with her.

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  12. You shouldn't worry about it. You save money in gas and purchasing an outfit.

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  13. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feel this way!

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  14. I would be pretty upset.. Like you, I would be the person to invite the person I didn't like so much just so she wouldn't feel left out either. I guess we are better people!


    Try not to worry about it too much, it's their loss.

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