After having spent several LONG days cooped up in the house with my family due to Indiana becoming Antarctica last week, I got to thinking about several things I wish grandparents would understand/remember about young children.
1. Being loud when you're trying to get your children to sleep.
Having the tv up super loud when you're trying to get the kids to sleep, talking loudly or just being loud in general. My favorite is when you've asked them to please be quiet and they keep talking loudly. I don't know about you, but my kids won't go to sleep if they hear my voice, which makes it incredibly difficult when you're being bombarded with questions.
2. Letting the grandkids do something after their parents have said no in the presence of the parents.
I think it's disrespectful to directly and deliberately go against the wishes of the parents. It also sends the message to the kids that it's ok to ignore what they say. Not cool grandma!
3. Ultimately it's the parents that have to deal with the consequences of your actions.
Believe me, I get it. You want to spoil your grandchildren. And yes, you've earned that right. Within reason. However, the parents are the ones that have to ultimately deal with the consequences of those actions, whether it's getting the kids completely riled up before nap/bedtime and then leave, giving them all kinds of sweets or rearranging the house after you have specifically said not to or any sort of combination of the above.
Now, don't get me wrong, our families are VERY good to us and our kids. And, we're very appreciative of everything they have done for us. I'm not saying that grandparents shouldn't spend time with their grandchildren and that they should treat them every now and then. It's just when it's excessive then it becomes a problem!