As I've been reading others' birth stories, I come across countless stories of induction, elective or for "medical" reasons and all sorts of interventions. I wonder after reading each one "do they know how lucky they are that everything turned out well?" I may be wrong, but I genuinely don't think they do. I am happy for them, but also sad for them for buying into everything that is spouted by the medical profession. I know that compared to most if not all of these women, I am extremely crunchy (which cracks me up because I don't think of myself that way at all - and I know so many women who are much more so than me!) and they probably think I'm nuts. Which is fine.
The one story that really got me though, was one that was so similar to my son's birth and I could really relate to it. Until the end. Where she stated that "The only thing that matters at all, is that your baby arrives safely, and that you and baby are healthy and in one piece at the end of the experience." This made me so sad and angry. Sad because it appears that this woman has bought into what was told to her and angry because well, see below :-) I actually typed up a response while nursing at 3AM but deleted it before posting because I decided to address it here.
This statement is absolutely false. Yes it does matter how you feel about the birth. Am I glad my son was healthy? Why, of course! But, when a woman who is suffering from birth trauma hears that, this is what they really hear:
This just makes me so angry. How would you feel if you found out you were lied to about the necessity of your c-section, if you were told repeatedly that you're imagining feeling the cut yet you really are feeling everything, that your baby is in distress when the only distress is your doctor's because he wanted to get home in time for dinner? This list can go on and on.
So, you're ok with your c-section. Great! Good for you. Believe me, there are so many times I have wished I could just magically be ok with it and move on. But I can't, I'm still grieving. We're all moms here, why don't we support each other, no matter the circumstances. Please don't invalidate my feelings or anyone else's just because you happen to feel fine about it, thanks.